"I have no advice for anybody except to, you know, be awake enough to see where you are at any given time, and how that is beautiful, and has poetry inside. Even places you hate."
"Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go."
"Any of you that have experienced great grief sometimes know that grief can reach a point where the grief is so strong that you walk around the world, and you look at people and you look at things and there are no filters between you and anything, you’re just completely open, because you have been so reduced by your grief that you no longer have a cocoon. And that it’s actually a very bittersweet experience because the grief is there and it doesn’t feel good, but on the other hand it is opening you to your world and you feel a tremendous tenderness for everything.
The ‘good’ experience, that’s like falling in love. Falling in love is sort of similar. It doesn’t have the painful part, but the ego falls apart, and there’s this sense of connectedness and tenderness for the beloved. And sometimes it spreads out so you feel it for everything."
— Pema Chodron
"Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like."
"Before enlightenment, I used to be depressed; after enlightenment, I continue to be depressed. You don’t make a goal out of relaxation and sensitivity. Have you ever heard of people who get tense trying to relax? If one is tense, one simply observes one’s tension. You will never understand yourself if you seek to change yourself. The harder you try to change yourself the worse it gets. You are called upon to be aware. Step by step, let whatever happens happen. Real change will come when it is brought about, not by your ego, but by reality. Awareness releases reality to change you."
"Mindfulness meditation is essentially cognitive fitness with a humanist face."
"Worry is a total waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. All it does is steal your joy and keep you very busy doing nothing."
"Since death is certain, and the time of death is uncertain, what is the most important thing?"
— Pema Chodron
"Death is not an event in life: we do not live to experience death. If we take eternity to mean not infinite temporal duration but timelessness, then eternal life belongs to those who live in the present. Our life has no end in the way in which our visual field has no limits."
— Ludwig Wittgenstein — from Tractatus Logico-Philosophicus
"The Buddhists say that
Suffering exists but no one who suffers.
Deeds exists but no doers are found.
A path there is but no one who follows it.
Nirvana is but no one who attains it."